He pushes away. She “acts out”.

He pushes away…

Abrasive, vulgar, defiant,

He pushes away because he has been pushed away.

At least, if he pushes first, he has control this time.

But many only see his pushing,

And are ignorant to how he has been pushed.

Therefore people speak to the pushing,

And not his need to be embraced.

Hurting, rejected, alone.

People respond to his response to his pain,

His behavior.

And not the need that created that behavior.

Teachers scold him.

Principals suspend him.

Friends fear him.

All, pushing him away, giving him what he thinks he wants,

If only subconsciously.

But not what he really wants, what he needs, to be wanted, valued, loved.

He remains untouched, unfazed, unloved.

He continues to push away.

She “acts out”…

Ridiculous, crude, unruly,

She craves attention because she has been neglected.

For her, negative attention from teachers,

Suggestive, inappropriate comments from boys,

Is attention nonetheless.

But many only see the “acting-out”,

And are ignorant to how she has been starved of attention.

Therefore they speak to the ridiculousness of her behavior,

And not her need to be noticed, by someone, anyone, in any way.

Hungry, misunderstood, lonesome.

People respond to her response to her pain,

Her behavior.

And not the need that created that behavior.

Teachers chastise her.

Principals suspend her.

Boys use her.

All, giving her negative attention, what she thinks she wants,

If only subconsciously.

But not what she really wants, what she needs, to be noticed, appreciated, loved.

She remains unwanted, unpleasant, undesired.

She continues to crave attention of any kind.

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One Response to He pushes away. She “acts out”.

  1. yanga says:

    so heartbreaking, so true:( I pray this truth sets us free to love when all we want to do is run away, avoid or ignore brokenness that scares us or that is offensive to our sanitized little worlds. Been reading a book titled “let the great world spin” makes me think of you!

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